10 Tidbits From My First Feldenkrais Training

After a few years of taking classes in a slightly obscure somatic practice called the Feldenkrais Method, I decided to dive in deeper and take a training. It’s a 4-year process to become a practitioner and I’m looking forward to sharing what I learn along the way.

Our first 10-day segment in August was a revelation. So many principles of this practice dovetail with my experience of Zen, offering whole new ways to understand the mind-body connection. I look forward to sharing more on that in the future.

Here are my favorite tidbits from each day of the training. Some are distillations of my own experience of the day. Others are the principles of the practice shared by our trainer, Aliza Stewart.

Day 1
In Feldenkrais there are 2 answers to everything:
1. The pelvis
2. It depends

Day 2
Attention changes everything.

Day 3
Movement is the first thing you ever learned.

Day 4
Every thought has a muscular configuration. Think about that for a minute.

Day 5
There is nothing that warrants certainty. Except maybe this statement?!

Day 6
When tired, rest.

Day 7
We arrange ourselves to accommodate our limitations.

Day 8
From a TEDx talk by computer scientist Dorit Aharonov:
1. Start within your comfort zone and make it even more comfortable.
2. Pick a challenge within your reach.
3. Move away from your desired place and come back to it through different angles.
4. Play with it, connect it to other things you know, make it your own.

Day 9
Even God did one thing at a time and then took a rest when he finished.

Day 10
Differentiation (feeling differences) is the key to integration (feeling whole).

Extreme Unplugging: Why I Go Dark

All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone. —Blaise Pascal

I started to write this post during meditation. I know, I know…that’s not what you’re supposed to do when sitting. But as anyone who has meditated has discovered—thinking happens.

I was a few days into a monthlong retreat at the Zen Monastery Peace Center, and I was happy. Not the kind of happy you feel when you’ve won the lottery, but happy like when you’re a kid on summer vacation.

This, I realize, is not the reaction most people would have when staring down 30 days of silence with no phone, computer, family, friends, or even eye contact. But I love being on retreat, and people often ask me what it’s like, so it occurred to me to try to articulate why I like to go dark and unplug in such spectacular fashion.

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Forgiving Is a Process

I love learning about words—their meanings, where they come from, how we use them. But sometimes I wonder if I missed a pivotal week in school where the vocabulary list included words like love, kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.

I’d heard these words held aloft as aspirational signposts since my first Sunday school teacher explained the Golden Rule. I’d even, on more than one occasion, had the experience being described by each of these words.

But the concepts themselves remained abstract and intangible to me most of the time. I knew they were real, but often it felt like I sometimes feel when passing through business class on the way back to coach. Someone else got to sit in love and compassion while I grudgingly wedged myself into acceptance and tolerance, wondering how exactly one gets access to those roomier seats.

Because these words are, well, words… I had assumed they had clear definitions. And if something could be defined, then it could be gift wrapped with a bow and neatly filed on my shelves of understanding, ready to be taken out when needed.

However, when I found myself in need of compassion, I’d take the box off the shelf and it would be empty. I’d think to myself that I know kindness would be useful in this situation, but I seem to be fresh out and don’t know where to get more.

I felt locked within an intellectual fortress, forbidden entry into the garden of good feelings and betrayed by my reliance on reasoning.

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Edith Wharton’s Home: The Mount

Have you ever lived near a “tourist attraction” but never visited it? Such is the case with me and The Mount. For a year I lived a few miles down the road from it in the Berkshires of Western Massachusetts, but I never visited.

That unfortunate situation is now remedied, as I made it the first stop on my 2015 summer vacation (which also resolved the issue of never having gone to Acadia National Park).

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Kissing the Earth

Walking tends to be a means of getting from here to there. We generally don’t notice we’re doing it unless there is an ache or injury that makes it less pleasant to move about.

When you walk, you may prefer to wander in the past, but I’m usually several steps ahead of myself. I tend to project into the future or find myself engaging in conversation about imaginary scenarios with imaginary people. (Yeah, it’s like that in here.)

Last year, after a few months away from home, I returned to the cottage where I had lived for 7 years and the walk from the driveway to the house changed my life.

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What’s a Garden Coach?

Today you can get a coach to help with your career, finances, health, parenting, and more. Whatever the topic, coaches are driven by the desire to connect and share with others in order to enhance the lives of both parties.

A garden coach is someone who offers encouragement, expertise, and education to those who want to learn how to garden.

Much like fixing a car, gardening requires a certain amount of knowledge. You may not have the time to acquire that knowledge on your own, and that’s where a coach comes in. You don’t need to become an expert, you just need to get advice from someone who is.

If you want to GIY—Grow It Yourself—a garden coach can take you step-by-step through the process.

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Going From Zero to Zen

Meditation is enjoying a moment in the limelight.

A slew of studies now confirm it’s good for you. High-profile celebrities openly encourage it. Your doctor may have even suggested it as a way for you to manage stress.

All of this may make you feel (more than you did already) that you really need to give it a go.

So you sit down, cross your legs, and begin.

And within 30 seconds you’re fidgeting. Soon your foot falls asleep, and that’s all you can think about. Except when you’re thinking about whatever your mind has decided needs to be dealt with immediately. Like checking email. Again.

Then the dog (or the cat, or your kid) realizes you’re sitting on the floor and assumes it’s playtime. Game over.

Maybe you try again tomorrow, but within a few days, because the experience is anything but peaceful, you give up.

It can be hard to go from zero to Zen. Meditating outside, with others, can help.

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Favorite Gardens: Winkworth Arboretum

As the winter keeps us in a deep freeze here in upstate New York, I’m longing for a sign of spring. While I can’t see into the future, I can take a peek into the past by revisiting photos of a special place I visited last year.

Winkworth Arboretum, in Godalming, Surrey (bonus points if you can pronounce that), is known for its tree and shrub collection as well as for the bluebell and azalea display in spring. I was lucky to visit in late April to catch the spectacular “bluebell moment.”

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Take a Stand By Sitting

“It is indeed a radical act of love just to sit down and be quiet for a time by yourself. Sitting down in this way is actually a way to take a stand in your life as it is right now, however it is. We take a stand here and now, by sitting down, and by sitting up.” —Jon Kabat-Zinn

For years I was a reluctant meditator.

I took to the cushion because I was convinced there was something wrong with me that needed fixing. I was trying to figure out how to be the right person in order to have the kind of life I was supposed to have—that elusive life with the right job, partner, body, clothes, house, vacations, investments, etc.

I didn’t realize this was my motivation—I just operated from unexamined beliefs and assumptions that constantly goaded me to do whatever I needed to do to “get it right.” (Though of course I was never clear exactly what “right” looked like, which is part of the scam!)

These are the same unnamed beliefs that convinced me to do one more diet, to try yet another promising exercise routine, or to switch partners or jobs on a whim.

So I sat. And sometimes I didn’t. (Which just proved how much I really needed to!) Either way, it was a battle.

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Coming at It Sideways

Ecologist Jerry Jenkins is working on a project that would send most reasonable people over the edge: a 9-volume atlas of Northern forests.

While his approach—an elaborate field guide that includes ecology—is fascinating and worth a nod for its ambition and integrated structure, it’s Jenkins’ practical philosophizing that captured my attention at a recent talk a the Cary Institute for Ecosystem Studies in Millbrook, New York.

A researcher who spent years observing and quantifying ecological changes in the Adirondack mountains of upstate New York, Jenkins authored two books he assumed would change people’s behavior and attitude toward climate change: Climate Change in the Adirondacks: The Path to Sustainability, and Acid Rain in the Adirondacks: An Environmental History.

But despite the books, things seem to be getting worse. Jenkins had laid out the worst possible future scenario for the Adirondacks, yet it was business as usual. No one seemed to be listening. Continue reading